Each time they interact respectfully and chastely, another sparkling brick is placed to create their special friendship and spiritual home just for two. It is their emotionally special place. While a woman is being courted by several men, she will be building with several men. But, usually, God has someone who is better for the woman than the others and he rises up and stands above the others in his devotion to her and her compatibility with him. They will end up building a stronger Inner Sanctum. When a woman says, “I love him” it usually means that his penis has penetrated her body and she is oxytocin bonded to him. He can beat her, cheat on her and treat her terribly, but she will claim she “loves him”. But, when a woman says she, “Really likes” a man, she has a friendship with him and has built an Inner Sanctum with him.
Once you have sex with a man, the Inner Sanctum and Friendship NO LONGER GROW. I will repeat that. Once you have intercourse of any kind (vaginal, anal or oral – the last two you ought to say “No” to for the rest of your life) with a man, the Inner Sanctum and Friendship NO LONGER GROW. Also, once you have experienced penetration by a man, he will not fall in love with you any more. That is where his love stops growing towards you as a woman. He might love you as the mother of his child, but his romantic love for you will not increase much after you have sex with him. And, if you are not married, his love for you will decrease since you lost some virtuepoints by not being married. This is just the way it works. It isn’t fair.
So, make sure that you have a wonderful Inner Sanctum, not just one brick after one date, and make sure that you feel very comfortable with his love and devotion towards you before getting married and having marital relations because that is as devoted as he is going to be.
A Happy Marriage needs a natural 7 or above out of 10 on chemistry, compatible values and compatible communication. Therapy will only move things 1 point.
If a couple had great chemistry but didn’t have compatibility and communication (and fornicated and marries) they are the couple that has nothing in common, fight all the time and can’t solve an issue. They almost hate each other.
If a couple has great compatibility but not chemistry and no communication, they marry and are friends and have no intimacy. They might grow to be attracted to each other over time. This is how many arranged marriages occur.